The Morphic Field and the History of Women’s Inadequacy

I work with women to help them overcome guilt, shame and anger, the three main obstructions to self-love and a healthy self-esteem.  I have the opportunity to have virtually the same conversation over and over but with many different women.  It always includes regret about sacrificing her needs and desires, to please everyone around her.�

Often women sacrifice their dreams, desires, and needs making themselves pleasers in order to earn the love that we crave.  I hear how they want to be in a relationship without losing herself.  Yet at the same time, they find themselves falling right back into the earning love rut, when they get involved again. �

Women cognitively KNOW what they are doing when they begin to rearrange her life in order to be with the man in her life, she begins losing touch with her girlfriends, and even begins to neglect activities in her life that she values, to spend more time with him.  I have even seen very intelligent business women neglect their own businesses and financial security in the name of being loved. �

I have found myself in this same situation more than once.  Knowing full well what I was doing, feeling compelled to do it and not knowing what else to do.�

So I had to ask WHY.  Why DO women knowingly sacrifice their own desires, dreams, careers, businesses and even their children to EARN the love of a man?�

There is an answer but it’s not quick or short. First you must realize that our actions are based on energy, our subconscious mind, and history. �

First, women are compelled to sacrifice so much to earn the love of a man because we live on a planet that has convinced women– and men, for the past two millennia, that women are innately inadequate and a disappointment. �

Secondly, you must understand that as humans, we are energetic beings living in an energetic world.  The energy around us is known by physicists as the “field” or the “morphic field”.  This field is filled with the long-held belief systems of humanity.  As energetic beings, we are naturally plugged into this field of energetic belief systems. �

Within this energetic field is what are known as archetypes.  An archetype is defined by Carl Jung as a collectively inherited unconscious idea, pattern of thought, image, etc., universally present in individual psyches. �

The key word in this definition is unconscious!  Between 90 and 98% of all of our actions are based on our unconscious beliefs and perceived needs. For example, you may consciously decide that you want to maintain your wholeness in relationship without sacrificing your self, yet in the situations you still feel compelled to do what you have always done, just by force of your subconscious mind.  Emotion ALWAYS wins out over logic.  Logically you want to show up differently within a relationship, but emotionally you fear not being loved.  This is why smart women do “stupid” things…actually why smart people do stupid things.�

We are all unconsciously tied into particular archetypes.  There are many archetypes, that is another article all together. At this time our focus are on the most prevalent archetypes that can affect every aspect of our lives.  There are the two MAIN female archetypes that have been with us since biblical times. They are the Virgin and the Prostitute.  Mother Mary is the blessed virgin to give birth to Jesus.  Most women, because they, more than likely, want to be mothers themselves rarely identify with the virgin.  She is an impossibility for women.  An ideal set up to be completely out of reach.  However, the prostitute is commonly identified with for most women. Now, I’m not saying that women commonly trade sexual favors for monetary payment.  Just stay with me here.�

If we look way back into history during biblical times, in patriarchal societies (we are still a patriarchal society) women needed men for survival.  If a woman did not have a husband she was left homeless and hungry.  Should she become widowed she was required to live with a sister and her husband or a daughter’s husband.  If there was no one to take care of her she was sure to die…of starvation, as a result of rape, and/or being exposed to the elements.�

So out of desperation women became prostitutes for their survival. �

The Prostitute Archetype represents the energy of sacrifice (doing something you would rather not do, giving up a part of yourself or beliefs) for survival. In today’s standards survival may represent a financial standard of living. It also represents being love, accepted and approved of by a man.  (This goes deeper into women being created as an after thought and man being created in the image of God—which too, is another article.)  Bottom line is, innately many, even most women has a core belief that she needs a man to survive or to be happy and worthy, although, that is not true in today’s society.  �

What we are tuned into unconsciously and energetically is supported by television shows, commercials, music and music videos, magazine articles and advertising continually portraying women as either the virgin or the prostitute.  I challenge you to pay attention to everything you see and hear and notice how it ties into a woman’s inadequacy.�

Our teen girls and boys are learning how to BE women, how to treat women, and how to be treated as women from the energetics of society and the supporting media.  Is it any wonder why we have younger and younger girls with eating disorders trying to be good enough to be loved?  Younger and younger girls are dressing provocatively to be loved and accepted by boys.  Yes, they see it every day, but they are also tuned into the energy that programs her to believe she is innately inadequate.�

 As women, as mothers of girls, we must learn to disengage from the morphic field and the archetypes that have been handed to us and redefine what it mean to be a woman and to be lovable.�

Work with me to finally claim your innate power free of the cultures archetypes and expectations!�

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What do Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler Have to do with Your First Thoughts

“50 First Dates” is one of my favorite movies.  I think it’s a great romantic comedy.  Just in case you have not seen it, I’ll give you a quick run down.  Adam Sandler’s character meets Drew Barrymore’s character and falls in love with her.  The catch is that, Barrymore’s character has a type of amnesia that prevents her from remembering the previous day.  She lives everyday of her life identical to the day before, with her father and brother protecting from the truth of her ailment.�

Enter Sandler who falls in love with her and she seems to fall in love with him but doesn’t remember him from one day to the next.  In the end they marry and have children, but Sandler has made Barrymore a video that she watches every morning.  In the video Sandler reminds her that they are happily married with lovely children.  As she watches the video, you can see the joy on her face as she learns about her life and she goes to join her family.�

By now I’m sure you’re wondering what this has to do with your First Thoughts.

Unbeknownst to most, we actually begin our day in very much the same way as Barrymore’s character.  When we initially wake-up we go through a process of remembering who we are, what day it is and most importantly what it all means to us. We essentially wake with amnesia.  And we gradually regain our bearings.

You may have had the experience of waking up from a very deep sleep completely confused about your location, the day, and even who you are.  Typically we wake much more gradually and as we do we sort of “step” into our reality, the same reality that is based on our beliefs.�

Upon waking, you are stepping back into your self-concept or your deep seated beliefs about yourself.  They are not necessarily true.  Sandler’s character could have put any information in his video for Barrymore’s character and she would have believed it.  This is true of us as well.  Everything we tell ourselves in the morning is based on habit and past experience. �

This is why it can be so difficult to shift our experience by changing our habits.  We are actually “clicking” into them in the moments just before waking up, making those first waking moments incredibly powerful.�

I have found in my own personal experience that this is the very best time to use hypnotic suggestions to actually create change in your day and your life.  The results have made such a difference in how I feel for the rest of the day that I have created a powerful morning meditation.�

I meditate every morning either by relaxing or during my exercise on the treadmill.  I have been making myself recordings for years because when I first wake up I forgot what it was that I wanted to focus on in the morning.  And if you’re anything like me, if I have to work too hard in the morning, I’ll just skip it.�

It occurred to me a few days ago that you might enjoy a recording to begin your day with too.  So I made one, it’s called First Thoughts.  It’s not a hypnosis recording because I don’t talk you into a deep relaxation.  But I do give you a visualization that you can do either with your eyes opened or closed.� First Thoughts is designed to help you feel light, energetic, enthusiastic, and connected to spirit before you go out into your day.�

I have good news!

The mp3 download is only 15 minutes!

More good news!

It’s only $4.99 (for a limited time)�

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Here’s to you and your First Thoughts!

Michelle Lee, CH

Self-Realization and 2012

I am so excited for 2012.�

I feel in my soul that it will be a very important year for women.  Always, when I approach a new beginning, I find myself reminiscing of times past.  Often remembering what now seem to be flashes of insight.  This time I’m recalling a conversation I was having with my mother when I was in my early twenties and I was expressing to her that I knew I would be a woman’s advocate.  At the time, I wasn’t sure how that would look.  But now, when I look back, I see that it has manifested in a couple of different ways.�

For some years it looked like HypnoBirthing as I taught women to give birth without pain and suffering, then I began teaching day-long seminars about the power of the mind and how to use it.  Finally, I began combining hypnosis and emotional freedom technique to assist women in releasing shame, guilt, and anger in order to create a nurturing relationship with her Self.  Self-Love became my passion as I believe deeply that if women really loved themselves they would eradicate fear from their lives and would change not only her world but the world as a whole.�

In the coming year my focus will be shifting a bit.  I will be focusing on helping women to truly “step into their power” and “step up to the plate”.  2012 will be a time for transformation.  I don’t just mean personal transformation but also worldly transformation.  I invite YOU to realize that you are already good enough and smart enough to stand up for what you believe in and create the life that you deserve.�

Whether you are moved to write that book, start that business, or create that workshop that has been in your heart, for who knows how long, I would love to help you to create the time, the energy, and the confidence to begin and complete that project.�

What is it that you would like to do this year?  How would you like to express your Self?

Are you afraid that you will disappoint others, or worse, yourself? Let’s do this together!�

I would love to be your mentor and partner in fulfilling your Soul’s Purpose.�

“Step in” and “Step up” during your Self-Realization Program and make 2012 truly phenomenal for you and those you love!�

Seeing your Wholeness with Love,

Michelle Lee

The 5 Signs of Self-Love

I still find that so many people are unclear about what self-love is and often confuse it with selfishness and conceit.  So, I wanted to take this opportunity to clarify what loving your Self truly means, why it’s important, and how to know for sure if you love your Self or not.

Self love is the core from which self-confidence, self-esteem and self-trust spring.  Self love is knowing who you are, where you’ve been, what you’ve done and loving your Self, not in spite of it, but because of it.  Loving your Self is about liking YOU, being your own best friend and knowing that you’ve always “got your back”.�

A solid foundation of Self Love is your point of power to love more deeply and completely others and to create the life you thought you could only dream of having.  Loving your Self is not selfish, as some may believe; self-love is the source of your love for others.  Attempting to love others before loving your Self creates conditional, judgmental, gossipy, passive aggressive, codependent, angry and resentful relationships.�

How do you know if you love your Self or not?  There are 5 definite signs that you love your Self.

1. You take action.  Procrastination is an act of self-sabotage born of fear.  The fear that you are not capable of doing what needs to be done, the fear that the action you take will not yield the results you want, or from the desire to complete the task perfectly (perfectionism).  All of these fears represent a lack of confidence in yourself which is a symptom of not loving yourself.
2. You define and design your life.  Your days include activities that provide you with a sense of fulfillment, joy and purpose.  Filling your days with tasks that are on your “should” list so as not to disappoint others or to impress others is “people pleasing” and “approval seeking” behavior which indicates that you DO NOT approve of  or love yourself.
3. You ask for what you want.  You understand that you deserve what you want.  You are not willing to settle for less in your career or your relationships.  You express yourself confidently, asking for what you want and expecting to get it as a win/win with all others involved.  A belief that you cannot have what you want or that you shouldn’t have what you want because it may rob others of their desires leads to self-sacrifice and is the opposite of self love.
4. You feel and KNOW that others opinions and emotional reactions to you is about them.� � Because you love your Self you can allow others to be who they are without making it about you.  There will always be people who judge you but you are so comfortable with who you are that their judgments simply do not matter to you because you understand that their judgments are based on their fears about themselves and have nothing to do with you.
5. You take care of yourself.  You eat the foods and drink the drinks that support a healthy and energized body.  You bless yourself with exercise.  Making time for yourself and honoring your commitments to your Self is a sure sign of self love.

Indications that you do not love your Self:

• You are in a less than satisfying relationship and justifying it.
• You are in a less than satisfying job/career and justifying it.
• You set goals or intentions but you lose interest in them, lacking perseverance.
• You doubt your ability to create the life you want.  You doubt your ability…period.
• You sabotage your own efforts.
• You are indecisive, worrying that you will make the wrong decision or you worry about what others will think about the decision you make.
• You are paralyzed by the fear of failure or even by the fear of success.
• You avoid new activities for fear you will not do them perfectly.
• You are in relationships that are conditional, judgmental, gossipy, passive-aggressive, codependent, angry and resentful.
• You are highly judgmental of others.
• You engage in negative “self talk” calling yourself names are defining yourself as incapable.
• You feel stuck.
• You put off self-care making others priority over you.

Of course loving your Self does not mean you NEVER engage in the unloving acts and ALWAYS engage in the loving acts, do not get caught up in perfectionism over this.  You do however want to be spending significantly more time in loving acts rather than the unloving acts.�

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Blessings,

Michelle

Do You suffer from Chronic Discontent?

When we suffer from chronic discontent we futurize our happiness.  It’s very much like the “the grass is always greener” attitude.  One who suffers from chronic discontent is sure she/he will be happier when…when the house is cleaned and organized, when the kids are more independent, when you lose the weight, etc.  But the phenomenon occurs when we spend so many years putting our happiness and fulfillment on hold that we actually become addicted to being discontent. Being in a state of waiting for the perfect circumstances to be happy and fulfilled actually becomes a habit.

This is what, I believe, can lead to the midlife crisis. Suddenly on a fateful birthday, whether it be 40, 50 or maybe even 60, we realize that the life we’ve been waiting to have has still alluded us and now we have at least half of our life behind us.  Often it feels as though we have wasted our time waiting for the perfect circumstances.

You may also realize that what you thought were going to be the perfect circumstances are not perfect at all.  You may have found at least one if not many “imperfections”.  These imperfections lead to your justification of why you cannot be happy or content in this moment. Or why you can’t do what you thought you would be doing when you finally realized the “perfect” circumstances.

Finding imperfections actually becomes a way for us to continue to play small.  Perfectionism is our way of blocking our own progress.  Waiting for everything to be perfect before we can write that book we’ve been wanting to write, or start that business, or begin the exercise program.  Chronic discontent is a symptom of perfectionism and both lead to playing small.  Most people would much rather say that “I’m a perfectionist” rather than say that “I’m simply too scared to step out of my box.  What if I fail?”

This behavior can become so habitually that you don’t even realize you’re doing it.

Begin today by doing one thing that you’ve been waiting to do.  You don’t have to do it perfectly, just begin it.  Then tomorrow do it again.  Step by step and day by day you will be doing what you’ve always waited to do. Before you know it you will be living your dream life.

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Blessings,

Michelle Lee, CH